in case if you're still unaware of my relationship status, im attached with a boyfriend who's currently pursuing his studies in america. well, i got to know him when he's already there and it just so happened that he's back for his vacation and you know, we met and things happened. LOL. why did i even agree to start this long distance relationship when i already obviously know the consequences? well, i cant really answer that i guess. its all about the feelings and probably the time was right back then?
the purpose of writing this is to share my journey of love for 2 years, coming to 2 and a half years this coming june. it just suddenly daunt on me that i guess im still quite independent to a certain level, no? HAHA. well, put all those "i cant-shop-and-eat-alone-stuffs" aside, i guess im still surviving pretty well without my boyfriend by my side? here are the reasons:
1. occupied with work and studies
im pretty much a workaholic and always that responsible and worried about my work and im the sort who needs to do my own stuffs on my own and cant stand having anybody else touching my stuffs and doing them for me. so, im occupied almost 24/7 of my time just on work and studies alone.
2. fatiqueness
by the time i reach home from late night classes, i'll be so dead tired that i dont have much energy left to think about excess matters and the only thing that comes to my mind would be sleeping and waking up to a whole new day of work the next morning. so? where's the time to worry and think?
3. family and friends/in-laws bonding
im not the kind of party girl who goes drinking and clubbing every other weekends, so my usual hangout routine with my friends would be shopping and dinner dates. the occasional family gatherings make me happy too. these people are enough to keep my weekends happy. come to think of it, i've only saturdays to spare in a week of 7 days. so, i dont really have free time as well. another point to add on would be the occasional meetups with his family. okay, maybe this could be a lil tough for some people cus not everyone could really click well with boyfriend's family or whatsoever so i think im considered quite fortunate that im on relatively good terms with his family members. his mom and brother would call me out for dinner dates occasionally when they're free for some bonding. LOL.
4. when the love is strong
its always the hardest not during the first few months but i would say probably somewhere in the middle if you're still in the relationship for more than a year. this is usually the period of time when the honeymoon period is over, when both parties start going back into reality and get busy with their own stuffs without as much communication as before. danger period i would say cus there would be more bickerings and such but if the love is strong enough, both would be able to get through tough times together.
5. communication
needless to say, communication is one of the more important points out of all. no matter how busy we are, how little time we have for each other, we would still leave messages for each other or try to talk to each other daily through MSN so that we have updates on each other's lives.
every long distance relationship differs and i cant say that mine is the same as all the others out there but i survived, somehow. theres no doubt that i did waver my thoughts and wanted to give up halfway but each time this happened, we managed to get things right and got through the tough times together. yes, he might not be physically here for me and i dont deny that there were times when i wished that he's here and yada yada, but its all about the determination and the trust i have in him. its kinda difficult for me to say the word trust cus im very afraid of getting hurt especially after my horrible first love, thus i find it extremely difficult to trust in a complete stranger who's entering into my life again and getting a part of everything i do. as time goes by, i guess he proved with his actions that i could place that teeny weeny bit of trust in him. its very important for a man to honour his words and prove with his actions, EXTREMELY IMPORTANT.
the last point is to always remember to keep your relationship fun and easy-going. this applies to all relationships, not specifically for long distance ones. by fun and easy-going, i mean keep things light-hearted, joke around a lot, do lots of stupid things together, talk to each other about everything under the sun and enjoy going anywhere and everywhere together. the trick is to really behave like best friends and yet at the same time, dependable during the rough periods. the rule of the thumb is to always be there for each other, never keep your arguments for more than one day and show love often by saying "i love you" many times and mean it, surprises and lil treats to brighten up each other's days! :)
here's a picture of us, in our current 28th month together!
